"Just a simple wedding" - sometimes it may start like this. It is a plan to get married, spend only what is necessary, then this is the nitty gritties of living together, spending their lives together, work, savings, family planning and enjoying their time together
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"It must be my dream wedding" - and can start to like it as well. The bride and groom can be optimistic about the price, it is planned to decide in advance that yes, they can not afford well-designed wedding that is unique and perfect for them.
But in both scenarios, the final cost of a wedding can come as a shock.
little things add up to big things
The problem often arises when the "little extras" add up - often without including the cost of those extras in the running total. Brides and grooms can say that for those extras because they look so cheap, just a few dollars more than the total (particularly in the context of total !).
But many of those little extras must be thought of in terms of them by multiplying the total number of guests.
then a little extra will be added because it looks so beautiful, and adds just the right touch.
and then a little extra for bridesmaids and groomsmen really do need to be thanked properly.
then one extra, because it corresponds to this or that so well.
and then another, then another - and before you know it, they have little extras exploded original expenditure to the extent that it became financially difficult to manage the whole thing
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Looking Beautiful - personal costs that can escalate out of control
Tradition says that a young family (although these days it is usually very young) pays for the bridal gown. While some brides opt for the cheapest option, many are not - and, of course, every bride wants to feel like you're beautiful on her wedding day
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If the bridal gown is going to be a major expense, the bride should sit down and think calmly about all the costs involved in its appearance. Will you wear a veil? What will she wear jewelry? (Will it be an additional cost, or will she wear jewelry she already owns?) What shoes? What lingerie? What makeup? (Will it be done professionally?) What hairstyle? (Again, will it be done professionally ?)
What about her students headdresses and makeup? (Typically, that neither the bride or the bride's family pays for it, but bridesmaids are traditionally expected to purchase their own dress.) What about bridesmaids gifts and gifts to the groom?
the bride should decide on the budget before he spends so much as one cent on any of these. It's absolutely fatal to the budget for the start of "impulse buying," nothing in relation to the wedding.
carding costs, photography, reception and more
It's not even mentioning the accessories (cards - invitations for engagement parties, wedding invitations, thank you letter, name cards, order of ceremony and order of service), newspaper announcements, trousseau, bouquets for the bridesmaids, hens' night, or the like , any musician fees, any additional entertainers fees, all costs involved in arranging a place for weddings, hire wedding venue, photos (and video if that is also selected), a wedding ring for the groom if he would wear one, wedding transportation (to and from ceremony and reception), and one great - reception (venue, food and drink). These are all traditionally paid at the bride's family or the bride herself.
This does not mean that the groom does not cost - on the contrary
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from bouquets to honeymoons
groom or the groom's family would traditionally be expected to pay for the groom's clothes, accessories for the best man (boutonnieres, ties, gloves, etc.), the best gifts for men (and the ushers), compensation for Registered marriage celebrant, gifts for parents of both bride and groom, mother flowers for Mother of Bride and groom, flowers for the bride (corsage, bouquet, etc.), the engagement ring (of course), bride's wedding ring, engagement party's charges, and the cost of the honeymoon.
deciding what is needed
it makes sense to stop and think before any money is spent - just what is really needed? And who will pay for what?
Remember that the above costs are traditional: it is not uncommon to find families of both bride and groom agreed to share costs in the middle, or for a family to be able to bear the costs of paying more than other families. If both the bride and groom have worked for some time, yet it is not unusual for them both to be able to afford the costs between them instead of their families to pay.
However, the costs are to be paid, nothing - not so much as a calling card - should be purchased without planning in advance of the budget. Some things can be a cure s. Some things can be, and not purchased. Some things can be splurged on, some things can be saved in. Some things, though beautiful, is simply not necessary, if it means cutting corners on other more important things.
What is the most important thing in marriage?
Speaking of marriage as a priest, it should come as no surprise that I very strongly believe that by far the most important thing is the ceremony itself - its structure, vows, ceremony text, and create a sculpture from different elements (music, reading , the other formal aspects) in a ceremony to create something unique and perfect for a couple. Anyone who is celebrant can just turn up, smile, say the necessary legal words, and then ordered a couple of men and women. For a simple ceremony which was primarily focused on just getting married, there are inexpensive options such as what I call the "Simple Standard ceremonies" - a basic book on the ceremony Marriage celebrant office with a short but meaningful vows
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At the ceremony, which aims at the example of the importance and beauty of the covenant by sight and sound, as well as the legality, first-class marriage celebrant is more important than any other aspect.
There are two celebrants will ever make the same ceremony, she carried out the same way, leave the same memories for the couple. This is why it is important for couples with this kind of ceremony in mind that their research with the Registered Marriage celebrants - look for quality and style and creativity that will best suit them
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place is also important - the dress is important - the music or the performers chosen ... all important. But how it all woven together in relation to the covenant is by far the most important thing.
In ten years' time, when you think back to the wedding, do you think you'll remember most vividly colored bridesmaid's bouquets? Or taste dessert at the reception? Or style of invitations? Will the memory of a horse and carriage taking you to the wedding site will be what keeps the day alive in your hearts?
Of course, it will be ... This will be a profession, how you looked at each other's eyes and made those promises to each other, as the vows were part of the ceremony, which was represented with warmth and smoothness and significance, as each word adds luster that promises, as a whole from him - from music to poetry by the time you've heard the words: "You may kiss the bride" - was involved in the wonderful memories of love and commitment to
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Where can you cut corners?
If your total budget for your dream wedding I was groaning with despair, start with things that you really would have liked, but not absolutely have to have. You might find it most helpful to identify what is not optional first, and to determine whether or not you can justify cutting corners on those essential expenses. Will this affect the most important thing, if you do not or will not? Circle of five things that matter most to you, and work your way down from there.
You'll find it works wonders on keeping your wedding ceremony in a reasonable, workable budget, so do not start your marriage with the subject of debt by putting pressure on your relationship. Remember, if you spend too much on making it look nice, you're in danger of forgetting that the heart of any wedding is nothing to do with what color ribbon decorating aisles and chairs - it's all about words and promise and love.
